Paper

I am flat. So flat I am paper, brittle and dry, devoid of life. Just here. Existing. I want to abundant colourful life. Alas all I do is sit here unmoving, an invisible, ordinary nothingness that has been allocated to isolation. I am just a dry old piece of paper waiting for the rubbish collection, the fussied tidy up, here where the fan blew me down to act as a mat for dust bunnies. I am a flat white nothingness a void of existence.

Fold me into a paper plane and throw me through the blue skies. Let me soar and feel the wind rush under my little paper wings. Let me feel the glory of the sun on my wings and the simple beauty of the world as I dive softly to settle into the dewy glistening grass as I am quickly surrounded by an army of insects seeking shelter and food.

Use your delicate, creative hands to fold me into a paper crane and hang me from a mobile so I dangle over your gorgeous tiny human, fat fingers and bright eyes twinkling, melodious giggles erupting as the breeze blows me in patterns above the cot.

Write your grandmother's favourite chocolate cake recipe on me in your easy drawling handwriting, the text unevenly spaced and sweetly messy. Then take me to the shop. Pull me from your cluttered darkened bag where I was wedged between your lip gloss and the keys and let me see and smell the people, the foods as you trail up the aisle hunting ingredients among the blustering chorus of activity.

Little human, fold me in your best most perfect alignment of creases, four times to shape a card and use your sweet little hands, covered in biscuit crumbs to draw art for your aunty for her birthday. Make me into a treasured message of love. Coloured crayons textured on my bare dry skin, tattoos of childhood thoughts forever etched artistry.

Artist, sketch your most favourite place on my skin, send me into a world you have created by using simple pencil and pen strokes before layering me with water colour and making me art to be stared at and adored.

Author unbridle your dreams and unblock your consciousness, let your subconscious flow and write the most profound message your soul yearns to share. Watch it flow naturally without pause across my skin, your words changing the future for those who read it.

Gasp, someone has scooped me up. This could be it. Oh please don't let it be the bin. See the beauty and infinite possibility in the blank canvas you hold casually in your hands. Oh I am not paper. I am me again. The paralysis has passed and my communion with the floor while immovable and locked in, has come unstuck. Now I am back where I started.

I will not fly, or watch over your babeling. I will not be carried to the shop with a treasured recipe etched on me, I will not carry the wishes of a little human on her aunties birthday, I will not live in artist's world or carry the words meant to change the futures of those who read me.

I am just paper again. Flat. Unnoticed. But now I am crumpled, dirty and I have several tears in my skin. There is that. I have character.

Don't Give Up

Dear Me/Amara (aka Marzi to my friends or variations of that – Marzipan, Marzipants, Marz, Marzsticles, Mara – or to my family RaRa or Aunty Ra Ra or the dreaded Tomato Jane and Fanny – as in the old ye English version of bottom - Fart Draws)

I wonder if that quote is true of humans as well as cats, that the more nicknames you have the more loved you are? I have loads. Maybe it's more that I give them out with regularity and it induces loved ones to respond in kind.

Anyway I digress, it is rather weird writing to oneself, so likely I'm hopping on a tangent as a form of distraction. But I do want to have a bit of a serious chat with you. Since I am you, well, I know what that brain and heart of yours is feeling. And you are struggling quite badly.

To be honest I don't believe you have ever had it quite so bad as you have it right now. In fact were it not our reality, I would not think it possible to even live this close to death for so long and to have not died yet. That you suffer the way you do, in the manner that you do, breaks my heart and you do yourself a disservice sometimes by being so strong. Although I am aware of you faltering now, in this moment, and that is why it is important to say these things to you.

You have to stop doing so much and distracting yourself from your reality by throwing yourself into helping others. Yes, stop, I know that's who you are in your very core and I know you can't be anyone else, but you are no good to anyone else dead, or worse still suffering even more than you are now.

I know you want so badly to be a mother, to lead a meaningful life, to write that book and to help people who are like you and can't help themselves, but how can you do and be all that if you won't stop and just first look after yourself?

I am terrified that this time you've gone too far. What does it take? You already suffer daily with seizures, Tourette's, dystonia, paralysis, risk of death from exposure to chemicals even just transference of them to your environment and now you've suffered your second minor stroke, they have found some sort of artefact in your right temporal lobe that travels into your frontal lobe (which thanks to the lack of any neurologists in your team means you are relying on the public hospital – CRINGE – to ensure they have read all relevant scans and understood the gravity of the situation and will action it appropriately) and to top it off, you've been advised you have cerebral atrophy. Then there's the low blood volume, the clogged arterial veins to the heart, your suddenly visible veins when you were never able to see them before, your inability to be upright without falling into paralysis after just minutes, your worsening dementia symptoms, frequent and innumerable dislocations of bones and joints, small and large, the cyclical vomiting syndrome, acidic blood, rashes over your vital organs, yucky overgrowth of bad bacteria in your gut, very low oxygen flow to the brain... and well really do I have to go on?

This is not the life you wanted. I know that. In the absence of life has been moments, minutes, hours, days, months and years of endless suffering. Decades. To have made it this far is, well pretty damn impressive. Most would have checked out by now. But you still laugh with your Ma and your loved ones, just not as often or not as freely as you did before. Because it's really hurting isn't it? You wanted to fill your life with meaning. To nurture life and mother a child, more if you were gifted with them and yet you lost your baby. That makes you a Mum still you know? No one can take that from you. And you wanted to help people – which you have done simply by sharing your story and starting Change for ME with Lee and the gorgeous team – it may not be all you wanted it to be but you did something and you did it while so sick you couldn't bathe yourself, that's no small achievement. I know you wanted to write too. To publish a book or books. To really tap into your soul and let out one of the gazillions of stories that travel around your brain and you have done that too just in a different way. You bare your soul in your blog. And it gives those who are not sick like your community an insight into their reality. That's something. Stop minimising it. Plus you let people see all of you in your most vulnerable state. That's no small thing.

Ever since you were a child, a tiny innocent child, you have been more like an adult. You always had a lot of emotional responsibility and you know how to be good friend and to look after others (just not yourself). And I know it kills you to not be able to participate in your friends lives the way you would if you were well. You used to juggle so many friends. And you loved them all and were in all sincerity close to them. But why do you judge yourself when no one else is judging you and you wouldn't judge them if they were sick? In fact you'd be making all the effort if you loved someone who was sick. So why do you still feel like it's your job? It's not your job. And those who have let you down or worse, been unkind and self involved are not worthy of your love or another moments thought. People are not perfect, do not worry if they are not there all the time, worry only that they are there at all and when they are they are they are good to you.

*Don't give up

 'cause you have friends
 Don't give up
 You're not the only one
 Don't give up
 No reason to be ashamed
 Don't give up
 You still have us
 Don't give up now
 We're proud of who you are
 Don't give up
 You know it's never been easy
 Don't give up
 'cause I belïeve there's the a place
 There's a place where we belong

Don't give up, you are loved. Don't give up, things will get better. Don't give up, hang onto hope. Don't give up Marz. You are a good person. You try very hard to help others. You are not perfect but you are NOT supposed to be. Yes I know you hate caps but I need you to hear me. You don't have to be perfect, stop trying so hard. No one else is perfect and you're okay with that so why do you think you have to be?  Be your beautiful imperfect self and own it.

I am begging you, please, don't give up, I need you to fight. Don't give up, because around the corner could be the answer. Don't give up, you are not alone. Don't give up, you are not on this journey alone.

I love you because despite what your inner voice says, that toxic inner dialogue of yours, you are innately good, ethical, moral and giving. Ignore the bugs that riddle your brain and taunt you with their lies and paranoia. Ignore the stroke induced doubts in your brain berating you and clouding your instincts. Listen to your soul, tune into the love in the universe, it's tangible, it will cocoon you and keep you safe, give you a soft place to land if you'd just let go and tap into the network of people who love you and their connections act like a safety net. Don't give up, I need you to survive, we have got shit to do. Please, don't give up.

More love than you can handle and squishes to crush you with

Marz

PS You may still have all you dream of. Don't give up.

NB Thanks to Jayne for dedicating this song to me and inspiring me to let this out xxx

*Song Lyrics by Herbie Hancock - 'Don't Give Up' (ft. P!nk and John Legend)

Change

Change use to be my bag. I used to thrive on it. It was exciting and imbued with endless possibilities. It probably started from my childhood, we moved every couple of years when I was a kid, we used to buy or build and then we'd move. Most of the houses – something like seventeen – were in Ferny Grove. The furthest we went, apart from a few years at McDowell before there was even a roundabout (oh that horrendous roundabout) was Toowoomba for six months, well that was a weird trek into a parallel universe. They put all the new kids (including my little sister Rhiannon who was in grade one, I was in grade three) in the new class room with the new teacher. We were segregated from the Toowoomba kids.

One bonus was I did year five work and she did year three work. But it was a strange place for us – no offence to those of you that come from there it's a beautiful country town but it's not so welcoming for newcomers, or at least it wasn't – so we moved back to our old stomping ground.

And I went to Ferny Grove pre-school, Primary School and High School. But we continued the tradition of moving house frequently. And I liked it. Then when I started working as soon as was legal, fourteen and three quarters I got jobs, starting at the horridly unprofessional Snow Deli at Brookside where they were incredibly unhygenic and frequently shorted me or overpaid me. Stupidly I was honest and would tell them (they would make me work it off, rather than taking the over-payment back, keeping in mind in those days it was cash in an envelope pay), then when they under paid me I'd have to get my Mum in to argue with them and look through their books to prove they'd fucked up. I was already smarter then their manager at fourteen. So it inspired a series of jobs, and at one stage I worked three. Full time at Mountain Designs head office Monday to Friday, Thursday night and Saturday at Woolworths Stafford Deli and Friday nights and Sundays at the Ferny Grove Bowls Club. Plus when I could the private boxes at the football – union or league – as the bar attendant serving lovely plumbers and tradies or asshat lawyers and barristers who were always the most problematic.

I then moved into temp work and loved that too, it fulfilled my need for change and my love of meeting people and I was very comfortable with learning new things I was intelligent enough that I quickly adapted to new environments and became friends with staff. I became a favourite of many companies because of my ability to seamlessly transition into their teams.

Then I worked the longest period I ever worked anywhere – four years at Education Queensland – and ironically had just started a job with the Human Resources Rehabilitation Unit as an Executive Assistant when I got sick, very, very sick. And I tried to return to work, but I kept falling asleep and falling over. And I was young and I was naïve. A woman I used to work with saw immediately what I had, she told me her brother was sick just like me. He had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. And pretty quickly I was diagnosed with it. Thankfully because that doctor saved my life. I lost my job because I was a casual, which isn't right and wasn't right. My old boss and dear friend went to bat for me. I should never have been casual. They should have made me a permanent employee by then. But the new director of HR had in for me. She really didn't like me and frankly in retrospect I didn't give her much reason to. I was too sick to work, and yet I would go out drinking. I did it because after spending six months as a saint doing everything right, eating barely anything, restricting my diet, resting and working barely existing, I didn't get any better. And when I drank it gave me false energy and for that time I felt normal. I was such a gregarious and outgoing creature. I had worked full time, played netball up to seven days a week, spent lunches with friends every day and always had weekends full of plans. Then bam, nothing. Four walls, revolting food, endless torture and no escape. So I drank. And she heard about it amongst other things I did that were not indicative of a sick person. But I was a kid. And I had lost my world to a torturous illness. I couldn't deal. I sent out mixed messages and I confused people.

Anyway.... that's that. So this incredibly gregarious, outgoing, young woman with extensive and varied social circles was suddenly slammed shut into a box back when the internet was a major luxury and people just didn't really call you. I lost myself. I self sabotaged. And then I would be good and nothing would improve, giving me no incentive not to find at least some happiness in company while drinking instead of the stark isolation I had been locked into. It was and is the most soul destroying and hope crushing world to be trapped in.

It has changed me. I am not who I was. I used to have parties to celebrate my birthdays, populated by seventy or more very close friends and they were legitimately close friends.  I was very good at maintaining friendships. Now the limit is no more than two to three people – talking very softly one at a time – or I go into the foetal position shaking and sobbing hysterically because it feels as though my head is being stabbed repeatedly by knives. I lost the ability to maintain friendships with people I had known and loved my whole life, because I couldn't even look after myself. They thought we just grew apart when really they just grew away from me and I never saw them again. They stopped reaching out. And although I still felt exactly the same adoration about them, I simply could not reach out. I became invisible, translucent and weightless. A non entity.

So time stopped then for me. Every thing since has been grey with occasional slashes of colour. Garish reds or the very rare dash of blue with beautiful dots of sunshiny golden yellow.

Now I am me. A shell of she. I shiver and shake at the idea of change. I get overwhelmed with the thought of it all. I used to thrive on it. I loved it. Now it is so complicated. My parents are poor age pensioners. They are my carers. And they're both sick. I am a disability pensioner and I cannot even get myself in or out of bed alone any more. We suddenly have to move house. And it's not like the adventures of my youth, I am a cowering mess. There is still a steel will but it is weakened and cracked.

On the weekend my sister Rhiannon and my friend Fiona came to help pack and I barely helped, I could do much except direct really. And yet by dusk I was projectile vomiting, with gastro, clammy with chest pains and unable to walk, my head exploding with a mitochondrial migraine.

Change. We have to move after just under two years and I'm not even fully unpacked. The house we loved just fell through. We don't have bond. We can't afford movers. We have nowhere to go. We can't afford double rent in case we do find the right place (dual living, hi-set, pet friendly) too early. The owners are likely to be asshats and refuse release our bond even though we've done everything right,  They're simply that way. The roof leaks, the lights short out, there's no insulation so we have ridiculous electricity bills because I cannot moderate my body temperature (they promised to drop the rent as we pay way over market price  due to the urgency of finding a house to move into, and predictably they then reneged their offer), there were no curtains or rods … I had to do everything to adjust this house to make it safe for me and now we have to move. And I can't work out the how of it.

We will. I will. I'll find that girl I used to be and wrench her out and try to make use of her for the small things. I can't do the big things. I'm too busy trying not to die. But I can summon her up for the little things. The bond loan. A charity loan. Commandeering volunteers. Something.

Please just pray for me, send me good vibes, meditate on good health and a beautiful change, do whatever you can to send out love into the universe for me and my parents. Because we've been through enough. And it shouldn't be so hard all the time. I need a break from the torture.

Help me wrench her from the shell. Help me please? Help us. We need it.

And thank you. For being in my life For hearing and seeing me. For loving me. For your unconditional unwavering friendships – especially those forged online in sickness, in the dark – you are the best of me. And I love you all xxx

My twisted faerie tale - normalcy

You never know what expectations you  have about life until they are not met. I was never a girl who had wedding dates, locations, dresses or honeymoon destinations picked out. Nor did I have a set age by which I expected to be married and have kids.  But as I approach 37 I find for the first time a sense of overwhelming panic enveloping me in the most unexpected moments, catching my breath and bringing tears to my eyes.

I may not  have expected a faerie tale, but I certainly didn't expect hell either.  If I am honest I imagined a love deep and soulful, where I was with my best friend, and we talked on intellectual and emotional subjects and had similar senses of humour.  We worked as a team to achieve things, no matter how big or small.  Instead I was with my best friend and everything that was our friendship slowly got lost as his very traditional parents whispered in his ear about my inability to work and how that made me a less valuable human being.  My illness progressed and in retrospect I have realised that he often relied on emotional manipulation or guilt tripping me into doing things that I wasn't up to (he simply couldn't understand my illness) and because there was a familiar underlying dynamic he was inadvertently pushing all the right buttons.  That pushing caused my illness to escalate and it made our relationship crumble.  But we had the most beautiful and amicable of break ups because of that foundation of friendship.  What I didn't know then was that while we were parting because he couldn't cope with my illness, what he really meant was he couldn't even manage to be a friend to me while so ill at all.  Ever again.

I imagined kids always, it was obvious to anyone that I had an innate calling to motherhood.   I had a miscarriage in my mid twenties, so that was stolen from me, but in some ways I am thankful because the type of mother I want to be would never have a child and potentially pass on an infection (that I didn't know I had then) nor would she bring a child into a world where she couldn't look after herself let alone a child - but I was younger and more naive then - time and hard lessons have made me cynical and harder. Nonetheless I would have kept that baby.  And she would have been eleven today.

Thankfully I don't need any sort of reassurance from anyone about my self worth.  I am a kind, resourceful, generous, intuitive and giving person who gives all of what I have to spare to others to sustain them and help our illnesses get recognised.  I have my faults and I own them, certainly there is a big flaw that has become more apparent lately, I self sabotage and I throw myself into advocacy to distract myself from my reality.  And it has been working, it has given me purpose when I felt like perhaps it was best if I were no longer here in hell.

Time moves forward, as naturally it does and my illness keeps me trapped.  My beloved friends are passing all those milestones adults take for granted as markers on their path through growing up. And now my heart aches as my best friends all fall pregnant and have babies. Although thankfully the love in me can put aside any sort of envy and just feel pure unadulterated joy at their gorgeous tiny humans, but the mother in me - and I am a mother because I carried a child in my womb, full term or not - dies a little more each time I think about the fact in a parallel universe my children could be growing and experiencing the world with theirs.   Little faces side by side grinning mischievously at the camera faces smeared with food, feet dirty and laughter tugging at their mouths.

To distract myself, I try to imagine a normal day.   One in which I awake and notice the sunlight catching dust motes where the curtain is parted, and I stretch cat like, feeling so rested and dreamy.  One of my two kitties Cooper chases my feet around under the blankets trying to catch my toes in a gentle bite and I giggle spontaneously.  

Just those few moments would be heaven.  Instead in hell, it is very, very, different.  The room is heavy with darkness because I cannot stand the light, it burns my eyes and my head throbs with the slightest movement.  And when I wake the first thing I feel is the intense bone deep ache that is always present.  I feel hungover, and am disoriented uncertain of the day or time.  Tobey my older cat lays near my head, ever my minder, while Cooper screeches at me to wake up and his voice is unbroken, frozen in the kitten stage and he sounds like he's being tortured when he is merely serenading me with his song of the morning and yet that sound yanks viciously at the motherly instinct in me and my body floods with adrenaline. I am intensely pained and cranky simultaneously.  And now thanks to the cat opera wide awake in hell.

I go to speak but I have yet to fumble for my medication as my mouth will not be manipulated into shapes to form words until I've gulped it down.  So I grunt and reach for my phone to call Ma, who recognises my number and drags herself up my stairs to get me from my bed.  I try to sit but my body doesn't cooperate and it takes six or seven attempts to manage to get upright. And then like a well oiled but clumsy machine, we load my walker with meds, pillows, water bottles, pawpaw ointment and I roll off the bed so we can pull the sheets up.

I fall down.  Hard.  I get up again trying to avoid the hand Ma is offering as her back is always paining her.  Then I start my weird gait, like a ping pong ball bouncing from wall to wall.  At one point I get stuck my head against the wall my eyes open, my arms dangling behind the bar that runs the length of the hallway and I am paralysed.  Thankfully I am at a lean to, so my chest takes my weight on the wall but my cheek is excruciatingly painful. Having been upright for a few minutes, my hands and feet have started to burn and the ache in my soles and palms is like nothing you can imagine.  My mouth is dry.  And it is all I can do to will my fingers to gently squeeze Ma's hand once to indicate yes I am present, with a predetermined form of communication.  As the time stretches my eyes widen in panic, my throat is not getting the air I need and my face is crushed against the wall.

Abruptly as though by magic I come unstuck and my body frees itself into an uncoordinated dystonic twitch as I rub my cheek and slur that I am okay to Ma.  We make it to my day bed where I unload the stores from the bedroom and assemble my pillows so that I am reclined with no strain on my heart and my knees are lifted with my feet slightly raised to take the pressure off my hips and knees as they are constantly dislocating.  I am very hot and my skin crawls as though a thousand bugs are marching over my body hairs.  My face is flushed and now my soles and palms burn to touch, I place them against Ma's cold arms for relief or hug  one of my stainless steel water bottles between my palms, relocating my hands as the bottle warms.

Suddenly I am cold, so I pull up the blanket that sits at my feet although the weight pains my legs and I wrestle on the jacket that rests behind my head.  It is this crazy flip flop of thermodysregulation where I cannot ever find comfort in whatever the climate.  In fact most all of it makes me sicker.  Ma cracks the back door for the cat to wander out and after one second I smell smoke, maybe a burn off.  I have ten seconds to yell shut door, turn on fan - thankfully we have an extraordinary ability to communicate without words and I gesture wildly as I lose my speech and the contortions take hold of my body.  I am wildly thrashing smashing my limbs about and when I can slamming my hands into my head to attempt to stop the explosion that feels like it's about to emanate from my brain. The movements slow and for half a second it seems okay, but then my eyes widen and my throat muscles stretch and contort.  Bronchial spasms take over my throat, closing my air ways and preventing air access to my brain. Although the oxygen is getting to my body, it is not getting to my head.  I pass out and continue the whistling breathing that indicates my throat has constricted to just a tiny space as though someone is gripping my throat with both hands and squeezing every half second.  Then I come to, frightened and disoriented and find Ma with the nebuliser and asthma meds held under my nose.  I grip her hand tightly and hold onto the nebuliser port with my other hand, wrapping my lips around the top.  I can't use a mask, they are idiotically made of plastic which sets me off. It feels like forever, but it's mere minutes and my breathing is no longer musical but my senses are dulled and I cannot see.  The lack of oxygen to my head has starved my brain and I am slow witted and uncoordinated.  Ma lurches for a towel and the valium and presses the towel to my chest, she finds the water bottle with the smallest opening, to slow the speed of the water down my throat and pours it into my mouth and quickly shoves the valium in.  I clap my hand over my mouth to keep it in.  Take another sip of water and cough, splutter and dribble it over my chest. I am shattered.

At least this time I didn't have a convulsion.  They now incorporate my tongue rolling back into my throat choking me.  It seems like every day I accept a new normal and yet the gaping maw that is the hell I fall into every day is bottomless.  Every time we find a ledge, it dissolves and we have to adapt.   So we do, we just keep adapting.  And I keep dying slowly, because that is what chronic is, acute illness that doesn't abate.  But we went from third gear to fifth really fast and something shifted.  Not just the gear.  In me.  I felt it. I feel like a ticking time bomb.  My low blood content means my blood is thick and throws clots and all the main veins to my heart are now clogged so I cannot get a peripherally inserted central catheter or a port because the veins are clogged, my body is a genius though, it's created a network of spider veins to carry my blood around the clogged parts.

I wish it would work out how to heal me.  I guess it is doing it's best just to keep me alive. Technically I probably shouldn't be.  There's too many things wrong.  It could be sheer willpower. It is the thing that's kept me going for the last fourteen years, arguing with doctors and specialists who kept getting it wrong and keep getting it wrong.  Thankfully there has been a few good ones on the way whose genius I didn't appreciate until much later and whose friendship I treasure.

This last six weeks or so I have been certain that death was near.  Two steps closer than before.  We've been neighbours for a long time, but now it feels like death is invading my space, getting in my way, like a guest who overstayed their welcome and is a little too familiar with your home and your things.  And I'm not ready to go.  There's too much to do.  Too many people to stop this happening to.  A government to be held accountable and specialists that need to be reamed out for their arrogance and misplaced logic.

I authored an article that appeared on the Mamamia website, although they sort of hid it - perhaps it's the paranoid cynic in me, but they ignored my comments and didn't respond to my email querying its placement - buried it in the second page under the wrong date when they sort them chronologically, perhaps Tick and Vector Borne Diseases are just too controversial for them.  Imagine how it feels for me and my community, we're not too fond of the controversy either but we don't get to choose to say oh well we will pretend it doesn't exist.  Didn't matter anyway, it didn't stop my peeps.  It very quickly garnered nearly a thousand likes and shares.  I also edited together a video of Tick and Vector Borne Disease warriors and that too has over a thousand views.  Plus I have shared the stories of my community on my charity page with my dear friend and co-founder Lee, Change for ME, to give insight and support to our members and their healthy loved ones.  I have been filmed for a documentary for students for their assessment piece for Griffith. And I have kept trying to reach out.  But I think I broke myself. Because I have nothing left.  And since death has decided to play dirty, I have to take myself out of the ring.  Concede this round. Take a time out.  Try and heal.  Because if I don't heal now, I can't help anyone later.  And I will be damned if I am one of those people who lives with this illness in our community for so long, fights to get my life back and leaves you all behind.  I won't do it.  I will always fight for us.  It is my calling.  Sick or not.  Let's hope not, but frankly I would settle for half and half.  Be a hell of a lot better than where I am now. Shhh don't tell anyone.  I don't want the universe knowing I'll settle at all.  I want it all the way back.  The whole hog.  The normal life.  Not some faerie tale, just normalcy. 

So in the meantime know this, I have a burning need to fight for you all.  I am not going anywhere. I'm just taking some time to slow down deaths march.  I don't fight dirty and he does. And there's something about being so sick and having had a few real scrapes with death that teaches you the difference between actual dying and feeling deathly. Unfortunately I am in the former category.  So I got to do what my wise friend Kae says, I have to put my oxygen mask on first, stop trying to save everyone else and save myself.   Because when I can save everyone. There will be no stopping me.

Please don't forget about me or think I've abandoned you.  You can always message me through my awareness team  Aid 4 Amara if need be and I will be back eventually - time is weird for us it can feel like forever and yesterday simultaneously, but it will be months if I am disciplined - so just hang in there.  

Also in the mean time my family and friends are fundraising through The Amara Campbell Foundation which you can message if you have any offers of support or help you can give them. They desperately need volunteers, as the beautiful team that put together the last fundraiser are all very busy and or recovering from surgery.

Love to you all.  So much love.
Marzi ♥

It's not easy being green

So...I am positive (and despite my sometimes – well often – dark writing I am actually genuinely usually quite upbeat.  But what I mean is I am positive for Lyme Disease). I also have some co-infections.  And just BTW this background choice was here long before I even thought I might have Lyme - subconscious instinct maybe?

Here's what I can tell you about Lyme so far, it's likely that the Babesia (a Lyme co-infection I have) is for me the more acute, more dominant infection and therefore I am displaying more obvious symptoms of that - namely increasingly bizarre neurological symptoms.

Let's start with the one I like to call the dramatic interpretation of the thesaurus. That is a combination of a few: weird dance style cheer leading moves, while repeating five alternate ways of saying something (because I can't find the exact word or phrase I want to use) interspersed with musical Tourettes and cheer freeze movements punctuated by clapping, smacking or stomping.

The catalogue of walks: the bless this wall walk, where I walk up the hallway facing the wall holding onto the new bar (imagine a ballet bar running the length of the hall) pressing my face against the wall every few shuffles, the crab walk, the grapevine, the ass first around corners manoeuvre, the squat walk, the shuffle, the child learning to walk walk, the drunk walk, the I have to turn three times at speed before I walk walk and the going down the stairs walk. Can you believe there is no moonwalk in that mix?

Then there is noddy: this is where I suddenly drop to the floor or lose consciousness mid speaking, showering, walking, sitting... just drop like a stone. The strange thing is though that I'm not fully unconscious it is more like I am frozen, but I am not conscious either as time is transient and I can't really tell how long has passed. 

And the Dick Van Dyke tribute: where I suddenly start talking with a weird version of an accent, whether it be Chinese or Italian or Kiwi. Then the related and usually simultaneous symptom of volume control... where I either am shouting words at random or suddenly whispering something while cupping my hands to my ears or forehead (apparently, because that's where I speak from).  Or the reverse it sounds like anyone speaking to me is not only speaking with an accent, but in another language and I simply cannot understand them.

Slow motion interpretive dance: this is a pretty frequent daily occurrence where my body moves of it's own accord.  Usually my neck and head, arms and torso doing free form interpretive dance or a series of moves - the salute where I repeatedly bang my head like I am emphatically saluting, the pick me manoeuvre where my left hand keeps shooting up in the air, the double pick me - where both hands go straight up, the bow down, the chin up head shake... there is too many to count. The tempo of this jig is dependent on what's causing it.  If it is just my usual brain farts, it's slow.  If it's in reaction to chemicals this turns into a high speed disco.

Language and singing portion of the show: where I have musical sound effect style Tourettes. I sing parts of sentences or make beat box musical noises – not well I might add. Or strangely I sing whatever I'm saying to the tune of a song or lullaby. Highly irritating. Oh and MA rated inappropriate Tourettes too. Which makes Ma highly uncomfortable cringey and full of shhhhhhhs. Unfortunately the more I try to suppress the urge to speak/yell/sing the worse it gets (plus a migraine)... so f$%k it, suck it, duck it.  

Oh and last but not least who can forget (mind the pun) the amnesia or dementia symptom: where I start calling my sister or mother or even my father – that girl... you know that, person that lady. I call Mum Marzi (my nickname) and cannot for the life of me remember the cats' names (Tobey & Cooper) so end up yelling out things like furry little people or pooper or Cobey or Tooper or f#$kingwhathisname. And the highlight is forgetting who I am, where I am and what's happening which seems to frequently result in me yelling, “what?” in people's face, “what's happening?” at the top of my lungs. “What am I doing?” “who?” “what?” The last time it happened quite dramatically I was (insert sarcastic context here) conveniently at the doctor's office. Where thankfully he didn't miss a beat in the face of my thunderous questioning of all these pressing theological matters. “what?” “what is HAPPENING?”

So Lyme is absolutely not my favourite colour. My school uniform was two shades of green... and I hated it then. Now I am stuck with Lyme. At least for now. In the meantime I will be performing daily. A Lyme variety show – 'It's not easy being green'. Come all takers.